Do You See What I See?

Things are not always the way you perceive them to be. So, in answer to the question. Do you see what I see? The answer is, probably not.

We are all influenced by our opinions, beliefs, personalities, and past experience. Inevitably this affects the way we interpret the world around us and our interactions with other people. What I see as an opportunity others may see as a threat. What I see as an insult others may see as a joke. In the normal course of everyday life this may be of little consequence but, if you are running a business, it can mean the difference between success and failure.

There are two aspects to this, the first is how you see yourself. Chances are, whatever your qualities you mentally distort them. This can lead to problems. Let me give you a few examples.

You think that you are focused, others see you as obsessed.

You think you are strong and determined, others see you as dominating and a bully.

You think you are good humoured and easy going, others see you as uncaring.

Get the idea? Do you see what I see?

In reality the true you, is probably somewhere between these extremes.

What can you do about this? Short of seeing a professional Psychologist the best thing is to ask your friends and family. They can tell you how they see you, which is probably the way the world sees you. If you don’t have any friends and your family won’t talk to you: You have a problem and should definitely see a Professional.

The second aspect is the way you see others. Friends, family, clients, customers.

We tend to assume that people we meet are the same as us. The same standards, beliefs, sense of humour. This can lead to a lot of misunderstanding and occasionally conflict. This is why we become friends with some people and not others. In your personal life the consequences ae usually minor. We either patch things up, agree to disagree, reach some sort of mutual understanding or go our separate ways.

In business you do not have that luxury. You need to be able to get along with all sorts of people, you should try to treat them all equally instead of in accordance with your, possibly mistaken, perception of them. If you can’t do this, you are seriously limiting your growth potential.

The solution?

Keep an open mind, don’t pre-judge, make a serious effort to get to know people and always ask yourself the question. Do you see what I see?

Take a tip from most successful businesspeople. Get to know your clients and your staff. The better you understand people the better your relationships. This highlights the importance of meetings, conferences, business lunches and yes! Even parties.

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